I seem to run into this a lot and haven’t seen this addressed.
In my first email, I usually ask a few questions and figure the female will answer them, which they usually do, but then they don’t ask anything of me but still seem interested.
As explained in great detail in this article, most emails sound like they could have been pre-written by anyone in the world. If you sound like you’re presuming you’ll get an email back, you’re much more likely to get an email back. You’re not here to find out if a person will sleep with you or marry you in a first email. I think we have a lot in common – particularly our mutual love of rum punch.
Here is one short email that makes 11 mistakes in only a couple of lines. Could you imagine having such serious conversations with a stranger at a party? Would you like my phone number and to learn more about me? Now, consider that you’ve been saying that to hundreds of women online for years. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you need to differentiate yourself.
So if everything you’ve been doing in your emails is ineffective – if everything that comes naturally to you is too dull – what ARE you to do? The other is called Opinion Openers, where, instead of stating a “me, too” fact (You like Bruce Springsteen? ), you offer your opinion – in which your personality shines through (Hey, if The Boss is from New Jersey, how come he sounds more like Woody Guthrie than Tony Soprano when he sings? So while I will acknowledge that being hot and stupid is more effective than being ugly and fascinating, the truth lies somewhere in between.They fear they aren’t interesting and will bore their date, hence make a fool of themselves. But let me tell you something: it’s just thoughts, and your thoughts aren’t facts.The fear is real, I get that, I’ve felt it many times!We all want someone to set the tone and follow along, instead of realizing that we’re always setting the tone ourselves.I realize that I’ve gone on a bit of a tangent from your original question, Dwayne, but this is important.